Parent Resources – Moments Matter
Parents, YOU are the primary influencers in your kid’s lives. The church should be the B-team when it comes to the discipleship of kids and teenagers. You as parents are the A-team.
Phil Vischer, the creator of Veggie Tales, once said, “You cannot challenge parents to disciple their kids if they have never been discipled.”
Our role as the church should be to come along side and support parents as they disciple their kids. If we truly partner with you as parents, we will see greater things happening in the lives of the kids and students we work with.
Opening: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”-Ferris Bueller
Life does happen fast. As parents, you have so many competing commitments that can leave you wanting to pull your hair out. The reality is that our lives and the lives of our kids are just a bunch of short moments strung together that make us who we are.
One of the greatest moments in Scripture is when the disciples saw Jesus walking on the water. It had to be one of those moments that they often told over and over after it happened. In the story, Peter experienced something no other human has ever done before. He walked on water, just for a few seconds, but he did it. It was a moment that changed him forever.
Matthew 14:28-31 says…
28 “Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”
29 “Come,” he said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. 30 But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!”31 Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”
This is a moment. This is a moment that mattered and changed history. This was only a few seconds in Peter’s total lifespan, but it is a moment that has been shared for generations. It was a moment that people have written books about. It was a moment that preachers preach often. It was a moment that defined Peter’s identity; one that can never be taken away or erased.
Here’s the point: MOMENTS MATTER.
Some of the greatest memories are made in a matter of seconds. Research has found that in recalling an experience; we ignore most of what happened and focus instead on a few particular moments.
Discussion (as a family) Exercise:
Parents, think of the last vacation you took as a family.
- Where did you go and why?
- What was the best moment on the vacation?
- What was the worst moment?
- How did it end?
Parents may have planned a huge vacation with a packed-out schedule, but we only really remember a few key things in every trip. So, why not build in those key moments and be ready for the unplanned ones.
Why do moments matter in discipleship?
For most of us, when we read the Bible, especially the New Testament, we read it in moments.
Think about it. When you tell the story of Jesus you tell it in moments.
- Jesus was born
- Jesus preached sermons
- Jesus washed the disciples’ feet
- Jesus prayed in the garden
- Jesus went to the cross
- Jesus rose again
- Jesus sent His disciples to reach the world
We can easily communicate these moments without having all the details. We can shape and share the big picture based off these moments without reading page for page. Because the moments have affected us deeply, we remember them. We know them and can share them.
BELOW are some discussion questions for you to discuss with your kids:
Q: In the same way, how are you using moments to shape your kids?
Q: How are you using planned and unplanned moments for discipleship with your kids?
Q: What are some moments that come to mind from your childhood? Good and bad? What makes those moments stick with you?
Q: What are some family traditions (moments) that you already have?
Q: What are some things you could do with a family vacation to make powerful moments?
Q: What do you need to start adding to your monthly planning?